Showing posts with label Home-making. Show all posts
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Sunday, 24 November 2013

Advent Activity Bags


I did these last year and I’m doing them again with a few modifications to make it run more smoothly!

Last year I was heavy on the home-made, time-intensive activity options, this year I am reining it in and replacing them with activities that are easier and quicker to pull together and less daunting for me!
I browsed my Christmas Pinterest board for ideas again but also used some things that are unique to our family….
  • ·         Write letters to Santa (we do this on the 1st to give me time to rustle up their request if at all possible…. They ask for one thing for them, one for someone they love and something for the whole world)
  • ·         Make Christmas biscuits (ambiguous enough so that if I feel like putting together the ingredients for the Rudolph cupcakes I can, or if it boils down to cookie cutters and butter biscuits that fits too!)
  • ·         Set up for a party (we aren’t spending Christmas with my parents this year so will be having a special pre-Christmas rendevue with nibbles and drinks to exchange gifts)
  • ·         Visit the Christmas market (an annual special event to ride the enormous old carousel, browse the shops and eat hot-dogs by the fountain!)
  • ·         Make hot chocolate with marshmallows in (Idris LOVES hot chocolate so this is for him!)
  • ·         Make a gingerbread house (with the kit from Ikea – told you I wasn’t doing homemade this year!)
  • ·         Visit Hooties to look at the lights (a warehouse near us with a darkened area for trees, lights and inflatable decorations)
  • ·         Lolly stick snowflakes
  • ·         Paper village scene for the windows
  • ·         M and m’s nativity poems – make to give to friends
  • ·         Call some family to wish them the best of the season
  • ·         Decorate oranges with cloves and ribbons
  • ·         Make candy cane mice
  • ·         Make thank you notes ready to go (these will cover all the children in one – separate ones have proved over ambitious to get sent out in the past!)
  • ·         Take a box of food to the food bank
  • ·         Make oreo-pops
  • ·         Hama bead snowflakes
  • ·         Make paper chains
  • ·         Make mince pies
  • ·         Make paper snowflakes
  • ·         Make strawberry santas
  • ·         Toast marshmallows on the fire
  • ·         Decorate the tree (always done mid-December the day after Daddy’s birthday)
  • ·         Hang up the stockings!

Apart from the few things that are date fixed like decorating the tree and writing letters, I have made a little stack of the papers in the cupboard and I will pick one to go in every day depending on whether I have the resources needed or the energy required!!

The bags came from Ikea last year, and they have three chocolates in each of them from a variety of Christmas chocolates that I found around and about…. This year’s new addition is a Christmas joke in each bag – I had a real giggle finding jokes to write out and I know the girls will find them hilarious, especially Faith, our resident joker!

I’d love to hang them all down the banister with the tinsel and the lights but last year Idris quickly worked out that they contain fun things to eat and I fear that all the chocolates would get scoffed in a day if I did so they are in the dresser to be drip fed!!

Thursday, 16 May 2013

One Thing at a Time!!!

This is my rustic herb box that Dewi built a couple of weeks ago from the remains of the wood that built that the huge raised veg bed..... It is in an unused corner of the patio that gets plenty of sun and hopefully will encourage me to use more fresh herbs now that they are close to the back door! The day he built this I had a long to-do list but decided to sit in the sun and talk with him and the children as he built it. It was wonderful...... then I went back to doing a hundred things at once and It's not wonderful!

I know we ladies pride ourselves on multitasking and I applaud that..... when it is the kind of multi-tasking that involves cooking dinner, putting laundry on, packing a swimming bag and writing a shopping list whilst a toddler sits on the worktop chatting to me and chopping mushrooms. What I am struggling with at the moment is the kind of multi-tasking that I am doing. I have so much that I want to get done before the baby arrives and it will be beneficial for us all but I'm juggling too many unfinished tasks and I'm really struggling!

I have been wondering why I haven't noticed any cravings yet and why my urge to clean hasn't kicked in..... then I realised that I am so busy doing other things that I haven't got TIME to notice what my body is doing..... and when I do notice, I ignore it and carry on regardless, which isn't healthy as I've been struggling emotionally as well as physically over the last few weeks.

So..... I have made a deadline..... on the 30th May, Dewi and I are going out for a meal whilst my parents look after the children and that is my cut off point. I will celebrate what I have achieved and put all non-finished items on the back burner and start taking it easy! This will be my last pregnancy and I don't want to spend the last ten weeks of it consumed by anxiety and exhaustion! I have looked over my to-do list and prioritised the items........ finishing the children's rooms and completing my curriculum plans for next year are my main priorities and I am focusing on those things for the next two weeks! I work well to a deadline so it is useful to have one set for rounding everything up by!

I will be planning and doing things through June and July but will make caring for myself a priority and will only spend time on things that I enjoy doing and want to do. I'm sure that it will all end up on a to-do list with goals and many ideas laid out but that's just me!!
These are some of the moments I want to enjoy more of..... Idris investigating what sounds an "am" makes when he taps different materials......
..... and the girls making themselves sandals out of cardboard and tape!!!!!!!!

Saturday, 4 May 2013

Some Simple, Tasty New Menu Ideas!

 I have had the book 'River Cottage Veg' for quite a while but haven't cooked much from it. Last week however, inspired by my husband's sudden dislike of sausages (another story but I blame the horse meat fiasco in the UK recently) I delved back into my cookbooks for some hearty, filling, main meal ideas. Now my husband always claims that he eats EVERYTHING...... but when you get down to the nitty gritty, it is everything bar aubergines, sweetcorn, beetroot, fennel....... you get the picture..... so cooking from veggie recipe books can be walking a fine line!
I first tried out the Spinach, Penne and Cheese Spouffle, a take on souffle but with pasta added to give it some oomph. I was so thrilled that it turned out just like the photo in the book that I took a picture before serving it!! In my experience there aren't many recipe books around where this happens! It was a thumping success and has been added to the favourites list!! This would be a great meal for baby led weaning I think too! I looked to see if the recipe had been published online but it hasn't and I don't feel comfortable copying it out of the book - you will just have to buy it!!
The second recipe I tried was for stuffed chillies, although I adapted it to use peppers as I wanted to make it as a main meal and I didn't think the children would enjoy chillies, nor did I really want to traipse round several supermarkets looking for the right chillies! Again I was really happy with the end result, and the filling made with beans was a really nice change - I have always made stuffed peppers with a rice filling before now  but think I like the bean filing more. I found the recipe published here for your enjoyment!

I'm looking forwards to trying more recipes from the book - it is always encouraging when the first two that you try are delicious, easy, successful AND popular with the rest of the family!!

Thursday, 18 April 2013

The Theme for the Week........ Listening!

This week I have been listening to birdsong, listening to the girls ignore most things I ask them to do, listening to my own body telling me it needs something different and listening to terribly sad news from Boston and Texas on the radio whilst decorating the children's rooms still. My prayers are with the victims and their families as well as the rescue workers, medical staff and investigators. 

The birdsong was in the garden of friends of my parents, where Dewi was doing some tree felling for them. The children had a wonderful time, the girls used thin branches to build dens and made dinner from the catkins, and Idris played with everything he could lay hands on. He helped to load the sawn logs into bags (above)....
 ..... he climbed in and out of the bags and giggled whilst Allan swung him round in it.....
 ...... the girls used the pile of twig sized branches as a trampoline.......
......Idris did a bit of impromptu pouring with the dregs of my tea.......
...... and was finally allowed to try out one of the tools that he had been coveting all day without being allowed to play with........
 ....... as well as a bit of tin carrying, these were tricky to pick up together and Idris had to try a few different techniques before he had any success! It was nice to see him busily engaged in the hard work of learning about the world. He had been unwell Monday and Tuesday with a high temperature making him feel miserable so good to see him back to his best.
The girls have been argumentative and rude with a lot of bickering over the last week. We have managed to nip some of it in the bud but it is always a multi-step approach when things get out of hand and will take a little time to get things onto a smoother path again. I have used a 'time out' discipline technique with one of the girls that I'm not a fan of, but as nothing else over the past few weeks has worked to get through to her about an aspect of behaviour that was really unacceptable, we decided to try it. She went into time out twice for the behaviour in one day, and we haven't seen the behaviour since! 

The issue of chores has reared it's head again as it does every so often with complaints about being asked to do EVERYTHING and dragging their heels when asked to do something or simply walking away and not doing it. I have responded by asking them to do more, and us all doing it together before moving on from a mealtime and it seems to work! I'm considering implementing some kind of chore card system to spread the load without having to verbally ask time and again, not sure though!

As well as listening to what the girl's behaviour was telling me, I have had to start listening to my own body telling me to take note of being 25 weeks pregnant! When I was expecting Idris, I could sleep til 7am with the girls waking about 7.15-7.30 but as Idris wakes up around 5-5.30 am I am getting less sleep and also finding that I often can't rest in the day when I need to. I have a few ideas in mind to help me get the rest my body is telling me it needs so hopefully will get things in better balance soon. I think next week's focus will be on little old me with a few of the other things I am working on on the back burner for a few days!!

Monday, 15 April 2013

Top Tips for Organising and Decluttering a small home!

I have been trying to get organised and decluttered for many years, and more importantly, once there, to stay organised and clutter free! Recently I seem to have achieved this more or less, and I thought that I would share my top tips and things that I have found work for me. Most of the organisational ideas have evolved over time, and the decluttering is like painting the Forth Road Bridge (to coin a phrase of my Mum's - the bridge is so huge that once the painters finish it is peeling again where they started and they go right back and start over!). So here we go for my organisation ideas:
  • Storage doesn't HAVE to be pretty - it's nice if it is but clutter definitely isn't pretty and I'd rather be tidy than stylish! Examples of this in my home are the divan bed base with four drawers under it, the plastic box by the front door for shoes, the toy storage tubs with a set of toys in each and stored in the garage which keeps them complete and dry and are easy to carry.
  • Bags for everything - I have bags for swimming, bags for gymnastics, a bag of climbing gear, a rucksack for going out everyday, and a few more in reserve. I store in them everything needed for each activity, and as soon as we are home, equipment is washed/dried/cleaned and replaced in the correct bag ready for next time it is needed. This stops any crazy running around searching for things at the last minute!
  • Lists - I have a master to-do list and then a daily list with one or more to-dos picked from the master list and whatever needs doing that day. Depending on how fluffy headed I am feeling, I even write what activities we are going out to and what I'm making for lunch and dinner on it. I keep these in the same notebook and I can't do without it as I note down ideas that I think of during the day or resources I come across, write bits of blog posts and so on. I work through my home education plans in there and they all stay together. I pull out the pages and throw them away when I'm done with them.
  • Have systems that work for you and your space - I now store all the children's toys in trugs in the garage, each has to be packed back in and returned before another is checked out - it stops everything getting muddled together and gives them plenty of choice as they can access it all when they want. I have almost perfected a laundry system that sees clothes being put away as soon as they are dry rather than gathering in piles in the lounge - loving it! 
My top decluttering tips are:
  • Have realistic expectations - we home educate and have three children in a pretty small house. It is unlikely that I will have a home fit to grace the pages of 'House Beautiful' until they grow up and move out! When the children, and especially when I am ill, the clutter builds - I have learned to just accept this and not stress about it as it can be tidied once normal energy supply is resumed!
  • Have routines - never leave a room without taking something with you to put away, when you have a spare moment, choose three things out of place and put them where they should be, deal with mail the moment you pick it up and file it in one of three places - a 'to-do' folder, a 'to file' folder, or the recycling bin!!! Remember to add dealing with the mail 'to-do' list to your master 'to-do' list!!
  • Declutter and purge regularly, be ruthless and move on things that are not used/needed/are duplicates etc. I often filter a few items of clothing from the children's wardrobes that I've noticed are no longer worn or are too small for them. They are either put away for a younger sibling or given away to friends. There is way more to be said for decluttering them I can do justice here but do it when you can. Tackle small decluttering jobs rather than going for a whole room - one cupboard or shelf at a time will make you feel great and you'll see fast results! I have a 'room 101' pile for extraneous clutter in the garage. I tackle it every so often when I have the energy, it looks a mess but saves it from making rooms in the house look a mess!!
  • Make a place for everything - this doesn't always have to be the most obvious place - store it where you use it most often and where you will be more likely to put it away straight away. 
  • Keep to what is necessary - do you really need five different spatulas or do you only use one or two and the rest can go? My rule is that if we haven't used it in six months then we won't use it. I put things away in the garage and if we haven't wanted it in six months then  it goes. I limit myself to one book case for my books and only keep my absolute favourites that I know I will read or refer to again. Others that I have enjoyed but aren't necessarily keepers are sold on Amazon market place, I can always get them again if I want them!
  • Make your storage systems child-friendly if you want the children to help with the clutter control.... labelled baskets, child height chunky pegs to hang coats on
I'm not sure entirely why I have become so much better at tackling clutter and keeping the house tidier and more organised...... but I like it!! Do you have any top tips for clutter? Leave me a comment and share!

Friday, 12 April 2013

A week of decorating, indoors and out!

We've had a couple of weeks break from our usual Home Ed activities so I started back in fairly gently this week with having the girls read to me, and some maths and phonics with Reading Reflex. Another reason for keeping things minimal was to have time to do some decorating. We have remodelled one of our upstairs bedrooms to accommodate space for two little bedrooms and they need painting and papering and all the sanding, sizing, cleaning and other jobs that go with that! I've spent two hours a day decorating for three days this week and I'm pleased with what I've done. I made my first attempt at hanging patterned wallpaper and it went rather well!! I'm not even halfway through yet but it's moving along at any rate!
We spent a great day in a little coppice attached to a school doing a Forest Fun day with a forest school trained home ed Mum from one of the groups that we go to. The girls made tree spirits from clay, Faith's is above, Eve's below. They used tools to whittle and cut their own bow and arrow, we baked bananas on a campfire, made shelters around the coppice, put together rain forest biomes and did some rain forest tasting. It was the coldest, wettest day of the week unfortunately and I was thoroughly chilled by the time we went home but well worth the fun and adventure that the children had!
The rest of the week, the weather has been much better than of late and the children have been playing out for hours in the garden. It has made me smile as last March when the weather warmed, the children were disappearing for hours when it got to about 16 degrees..... this year, in April, it got to 10 degrees and they were off like greyhounds from the trap, so desperate to be out that 10 degrees and dry felt balmy!! Idris loves to potter out of doors so we spend lots of time outside too. We've finally got some little veg plants out, so space on the window ledge for more now!!
I have continued with my techie goal of 2013, adding 'pin it' buttons to the pictures on the blog, using this tutorial from code it pretty. I have also downloaded the kindle app onto my tablet and purchased a book to read on it to try it out! I had thought about buying a kindle as I read a lot and never seem to have the book that I want with me when I have a few minutes to read. I wanted a back-lit reader though and didn't fancy the option for that at the time (the nook) as I still needed an app on that to read kindle books on it. I need back-lit so I can read in bed without disturbing others who are sleeping or trying to sleep! Trying it out on the tablet is a good solution, I will see how it goes! Hope you all had a good and productive week!

Friday, 5 April 2013

And my Littlest Girl Turned Six This Week!

Well it's been another week of ups and downs..... when isn't it?! After spending a few days with my parents-in-law in their immaculate home I came home to realise that mine had moved a couple of notches up the clutter scale again after feeling ill the weekend before so spent a couple of hours restoring order! It was remarkably easy since I have established routines and places for everything and wasn't the horrible task it used to be!

I feel like my baby bump is enormous. I am only 23 weeks pregnant, but fighting the urge to waddle and horrified by the looming prospect of needing 'big pants' to feel comfortable as such an early stage!! This baby has a kick like a horse already and has perfected the 'bladder squirm' move, mainly practised by babies on long journeys or remote locations where a bathroom is inaccessible! I am looking forwards to my cleaning urge kicking in..... I have experienced this craving for bubbles and cleaning products in all of my pregnancies and it is most useful!!! I have big plans for it this time around and my husband says it is the best of all my pregnancy obsessions (another one is for the colour green, he dreads me wanting to decorate when pregnant - we get very predictable colour schemes!).
I am well on the way with plans for September's 'curriculum'. I remember very well how wonderfully a newborn baby turns everything upside down for a good while and I embrace the slowing down and enjoy it...... however...... we have a really great momentum going on at the moment and the girls have interests they want to pursue so with the benefit of my experience of what worked when Idris was born, I am planning ahead and creating 'newborn friendly' curriculum plans for next year!! More on that soon!

My 2013 goal of becoming more technologically savvy is still moving along well. You may have noticed that a 'follow me on pinterest' widget has arrived on the right hand side of the blog??!! It took an hour and a half of googling 'how to' tutorials, following the steps, then trouble shooting the steps, and a good bit of careful thinking and problem solving on my part too. That bit surprised me but really, I came up with the answers for myself in the end, which is brilliant as for half an hour my pinterest link went to Kate's board, and I can tell you she's a very different gal with very different interests to mine!!!!! I am also trying out linking one or two of my posts to other blogs. Amy at Raising Arrows wrote a great post this week on menu planning and I linked my post on Feeding a family on a small budget to it, although if I link again I need to write the blog post title rather than just my name! I also have plans for trying out the kindle app on my Samsung tablet, although synchronising calenders on that and my phone is still eluding me!!!!
And the biggest news this week? My littlest girl turned six - now exactly when did THAT happen already??!! She wanted to go ice skating for her birthday so skating we went. I didn't realise that it was set up like a disco so it was really hard to get any pictures of her skating in the darkness! We had a simple picnic and spent some time at a National Trust property running around the parkland climbing dead trees. Oh and I made an inedible cake that we could only eat the decorations off. She said it was the best birthday yet! It always blows me away how little makes my children happy, they rarely ask for anything and even then it is something modest - they never make a birthday list or ask for big parties, and hug me hard even when I make horrible cake for their big day - I am truly blessed!

Saturday, 30 March 2013

Slump Over with...... Mojo relocated......

...... somewhere between a hot bath and a bag of compost! Well that's just how it rolls when you homeschool, you find your MOtivation, EnerJy and Optimism (MOJO - geddit??) in the most unlikely places and at the most unexpected of times. After being slightly grumpy about having to clean and wash the car, clean the guinea-pig out (in the singular as one was buried this morning.... yes it had died first, it wasn't just another experiment!) and various other chores, I found that we had a really lovely afternoon!
I am so enjoying the girl's company this week, they are such funny, intelligent, quirky people, full of ideas and fun and surprising conversation! Even Idris who doesn't have a huge repertoire of responses, is fun to converse with, he seems to know when to say yes or no, and when to not comment, reminds me of Dewi sometimes, perhaps it is a man thing??!! He has developed a fascination with keys this week which can be a little painful as he is so very insistent on someone sitting by the front door whilst he tries EVERY key in the door..... come back shoe fetish, all is forgiven!!!!

We have done very little in the way of organised activities this week. I started out Monday with a plan but felt like I was wading through treacle (I wasn't well at the weekend), and as the girls seemed happy in each others company and happy to play, I decided I was happy to let them and allowed myself to take it a little easy where I could. I struggle to do that a little as I feel frustrated by what we aren't getting done out of the list of things we all WANT to do. It always amazes me though how a week like this ends up in positive energy and seeming to achieve things so easily instead of battling through them. I have had a clarity of vision today on how all the plans the girls and I have will slot together over the next week or two and am excited and enthusiastic about them again. Hurray!

We are going to Wales to stay with family for a few days and will be spending time down on the beach and walking by the cliffs. I'm hoping that we'll see erosion in action to illustrate the book we have read together. It will be a great follow-on to the water experiments that we did last week.  I found an overwhelmingly huge Montessori blog today after the owner left me a lovely comment...... her pinterest boards are brilliant and helped me out with a quandary I've been having over our Living Maths curriculum. I've got some ideas now about how to tackle the measurement book that the girls love, and how it will tie in so nicely with measuring up the new veg bed ready to plan our planting schedule for the summer for the RHS Benchmark scheme we are getting involved with. I've rough planned the next human body unit for the girl's science to start in a week's time - the digestive system this time.

Monday, 11 March 2013

Making a Family Garden Journal

I made this journal in 2009 when the girls were 2 and four, it was a really special way to record how we enjoyed the garden together and what things enthused them and caught their attention. I took photographs of some of the plants as they grew and opened, pointing out the small details to the children and recording when they came up.
We added collage and art that we made at various times of the year and using materials from the garden.
Here we all sat and observed a large and beautiful hosta leaf and all drew our own picture of it to go into the journal.
I added photographs of outdoorsy things the girls enjoyed and some pages have notes jotted all over them, a little like a baby record book of things we did and said.
 This was the front cover, we unearthed it during my recent decluttering and the girls loved going through it and hearing stories and adding their own memories and exclaiming over things!
So we have decided to do one again this year just as Idris really begins to enjoy the garden. I made this journal the following year in 2010 but we never did use it so I will make a new year label and we can use it this year. I'm looking forwards to the girls adding their own notes now that they both write, and we have a new veg bed to plant up since we made some changes to the garden. Idris loves the outdoors, he was making me laugh this evening as he headed off out into the rain in his vest and trousers with a hoe in one hand and a fork in the other. He stopped, pulled a face (at the rain?), came back in and asked that I put his top back on him, which I helped with. He then turned and stumped back off up the garden in the rain with his hoe and his fork!!!
 I made the journal with lots of rainbow pages of all different textures of paper and card, some corrugated cardboard covers, and I cut, embellished and glued one of dewi's cardigans around the the cover. it is nicely felted as I shrank it in the wash - oops, but it does make a great journal with buttons to do it up!!!!

Sunday, 3 March 2013

Idris at 19 months

Well I can hardly belive that another month has flown past and this fabulous, funny, loving little person is 19 months (and a bit!) already! I keep a page in my notebook where I jot down new things that he does or things that I notice about him to write in these posts and this month it seems I have been adding new things every day or even several times a day sometimes, especially his new vocabulary! So here goes, he:
  • Loves to help out around the house, he will put things in the washing machine, carry cups to and from the dishwasher, tidy away, put pants and socks in the right drawers, pulls pillow cases and duvet covers off, feeds the animals, tidies the bath toys, helps to carry things.
  • Is super independent, he carries his own plate or bowl of food to the table, then climbs up to a high wooden stool and sits to eat with us, getting down usually when he is done and pottering off! He eats really well with a fork and spoon, which is just as well as he......
  • refuses to wear a bib or apron or have his sleeves rolled up, he can't abide taking his trousers off to wander around for some nappy free time so we have to take the nappy off and put his trousers back on again!!
  • uses a stool to get things that he wants/needs/shouldn't have - he delights in climbing up to retrive a pair of scissors then carrying them to me saying 'sisiss. sisiss'!
  • runs really fast, can jump off the floor with two feet together, often climbs steps with alternate feet, and has a lengthy and highly accurate overarm throw, and a cracking left foot kick!
  • kisses things better, by grabbing the hurt person and kissing their cheek, he always comes for his hurts to be kissed better, holding out the hurting bit, then is instantly better as soon as it has been kissed!!
  • thinks that all numbers are named 'two' and says it every time he hears someone say a number!
  • can be incredibly disruptive if he thinks he isn't getting his share of the attention - he will climb a book case whilst making eye contact and grinning, as if to challenge me to come and get him, or he will screech like a banshee VERY loudly in an attempt to drive everyone present into interacting with him - I have cracked down on this this week as the girls capitulate far too often and it is making it worse!!
  • really enjoys books now and likes to fetch a book and sit with someone and talk about it, he even 'tells the story' with a simple 'splash' book, knowing what things are on the next page (trousers and hat!!).
  • still loves order and routine, things have to be done in a certain way and put in a certain place or we get no peace until he is satisfied.
  • eats me out of house and home - my friends with several boys assure me this is normal!
  • has slept through the night for the first time since he was born - but now gets up any time from 5 am due to having slept well - roll on those summer mornings!!!
  • loves to show body parts, where are your eyes? (blink blink blink), where is your tongue (sticks it out), where are your teeth? (gnashes them), he points to his ears, mouth, head, hair, tummy, bottom.
  • loves his boots, we have indoor boots (yellow duck ones) and outdoor boots (muddy ones) but I still seem to end up cleaning them often!!
his new words this month are: sisiss (scissors) trousers, book, chair, boot, ballo(on), (s)tick, (s)tep, kick (accompanied by the action), bowl, coa(t), c(l)othes, cheese, yeah (he doesn't say 'no' yet!!), Ebe (Eve), (F)aith , Gar (Grandpa), (s)tuck, (s)ock, (w)oof, doo doo (thank you), cat, hat, eyes, ears, no(se), knee. It interests me that most of his words relate to his body, other people, clothes and his ways of getting what he wants such as stick, stool, coat, hat (to go outside etc).
 

Friday, 1 March 2013

An Underbed Storage Box and a New Baby on the way!


We are expecting a baby in the Summer and although I have banned my Mum from buying anything for this baby, as we have everything that we need, her generous soul couldn't resist knitting this gorgeous little jumper!! I have tucked it away in an empty drawer under my bed (yes I do actually have such a thing as an empty drawer now that I'm getting organised!) and open it now and again when I need to smile!

It struck me how things change as we have more babies. For my first, we decorated a room, chose furniture, and made pictures for the walls. For our second, we made a special place in the corner of what was our guest room then (laughs hollowly at the notion of a guest room), and put a wardrobe in there for all her things. Our third baby got a cot tucked up to our bed and a set of drawers in his big sister's room and this baby? Well this baby gets an under bed storage drawer...... and nearer the time I will really enjoy getting down the newborn clothes (well, 0-3 as I have giant long babies that never fit in newborn!), washing and folding them before tucking them away safely under our bed ready for the new arrival!

Sunday, 24 February 2013

Organising Paperwork into a Household Folder System.

One of my goals for 2013 was to 'get the house organised once and for all and maintain it'. I have tried (and failed) on and off over the years to get more organised and I've gradually gained a bit more control, picking up a few ideas here and there but then I got stuck. About 18 months ago we started looking for a bigger house and lots of things that needed doing here, whether they were house maintenance or decluttering, were put on the back burner 'until we moved'. Three failed house purchases later (we have a really complicated system here in the UK) we have decided to embrace small home living...... and finally get organised!

In the last couple of months an awful lot of decluttering, downsizing and re-organisation has taken place, but our paperwork has sat in several boxes in the lounge until today..... it was useful in a way as every time I found some I added it to the boxes...... but it has been nagging at me from it's place beside the sofa!!!

This morning the mood took me to sort it out and I went through it whilst flipping breakfast pancakes for my children - a good use of a long time spent standing in the kitchen!! I made piles of different sorts, put a massive stack in the recycling bin and anything of a sensitive nature by the burner to be destroyed. As I worked I noted that there were two sorts of papers...... those that we used regularly and those that are rarely needed but still important.

I had kept two large lever arch files from a previous massive paperwork purge and into these I neatly filed everything in plastic pockets between dividers, using large white labels stuck back to back over the edges of the dividers (to cover up the previous writing and to make them stick out more. I was happy to be recycling stationary from previous uses...... I had been momentarily tempted to create pretty labels and covers like I have seen on numerous other blogs and sites but quickly decided that it wasn't necessary and my financial statements would be perfectly happy in a plain folder!!
 
The short term folder has space for gift lists, schedules, budgeting and goals as well as pure paperwork. I like an idea that I've seen before where the folder was like a household manual that could be picked up by someone else if there was an emergency and things would run smoothly - so it included things like times and addresses of sports lessons, doses of medication and where to get a replacement prescription, phone numbers of friends who knew the children well and could help out and so on. There is still some work to do to get all that together but the paperwork is well organised at least!

To finish off, there is a 'to-do' file and a 'to file' folder in the letter rack in the hall, simple hole-punched plastic folders that open at the top and are easy to add things to. I deal with the mail as soon as I pick it up and recycle and file whatever arrives. A 'one in one out' approach works for things like water bills and I keep other papers for longer such as a year's worth of payslips. I have tried a few different ways of organising it over the years but I have a good feeling about it this time! It feels good to be one step closer to having a properly organised home and life!!!

Tuesday, 19 February 2013

Balancing Outside Activities with Time Spent at Home


As a home educating parent I often find myself re-calibrating the balance of time spent between outside activities and home. Some families stay home all the time and some seem to be out every day! It can be very tempting, with the exciting opportunities on offer, to spend every day going out taking part in outside activities, and this can fit with the home educating philosophy of many families, such as the autonomous route, or of those that want to make use of tutors and classes. From reading the many blogs of families that live a self-sufficient life on abundant land, staying home all the time can seem like the ideal also, and the best thing to do for your children. This may suit families in small, close communities or those that are very structured in their days and need to cover a lot of material so have not the time to go out. Most families will fall somewhere between the two!

The truth of the matter for us is that we live on the outskirts of a city with a 'large for the city' sized garden that doesn't fulfil the energetic, outdoors loving natures of my children.  And whilst I embrace some aspects of simple living, I don't want to automatically discount all outside activities and then miss something that will enrich their lives or fail to support the children in developing their passions and talents. Our girls happen to be sporty and it is difficult to nurture swimming, gymnastics and canoeing within our home!!

There have been times when I've panicked that we don't do enough and signed up for everything going then hit exhaustion point about three weeks into the month and cancelled the rest of the planned outings and activities! I have come to learn that for us, a 'busy day out' must be followed by a quieter one at home. Neither I nor the children operate at our best when tired and it is much easier to keep on top of household jobs if I am home half the week or more! On the flip side, I would go stir crazy if I never went out at all. I need the company of other adults and I enjoy the occasional bit of head space when the children are running free and I am not needed for a short time!!

So what do we do right now? We have a good balance at the moment. We go to the 'Tuesday Club' from ten til two on (you guessed it!) a Tuesday. There are lots of great opportunities there where other parents and grandparents give of their time and talents for the benefit of all. The girls enjoy History artifact handling sessions, French, Choir and an 'around the world' session there currently, as well as art tutorials, science and cooking activities, crafts and plenty of time for socialising and play (both structured and unstructured). I have not been brave enough to put myself forwards to run a session there yet!!

On a Thursday afternoon we meet with a couple of other like-minded HE families for a few activities, a run around the park and a supportive chat with the other mums. We have done this for about 18 months now but it is beginning to fade off as one family prepares to return to America. We probably won't meet regularly with them after the summer which is OK with me as Fridays are beginning to shape up with some lovely opportunities also and I am happy with two days booked up a week! One of the families we meet quite often at our favourite places to go and I am good friends with the mum so we will stay connected!

Fridays currently have a few things happening. Eve has joined a creative writing group that meets monthly for two hours and she loves it..... an old HE group has been resurrected once a month in our home city by some fresh and energetic mums and it had a really good vibe last month with a few families that gel really well so I have high hopes for it...... and we go to the art gallery once a month for a fine art session on a Friday also..... I am really enjoying the new possibilities that Fridays are offering and hope that they will develop further into some great sessions and activities.

There are also the sports that the girls take part in. Most of these happen at the weekend which suits us at present as Dewi works nights every weekend and I would rather those days were tied up with lessons and coaching than the weekdays when we can spend time as a family. There is gymnastics on Friday evening for both girls then gymnastics for Faith on Saturday afternoon and synchronised swimming for Eve which slot nicely in between each other for drop off and collection times! Sunday morning is Eve's swimming lesson (used to be both but Faith has moved up a level and I wanted her with a specific coach so had to move times/days) followed by church. Monday is Faith's swimming lesson then Tuesday evening is her third gym session. We share lifts with another family for the gymnastics which is a wonderful gift!!

How do I choose what we do and what we pass on? I have a few criteria that I go by:
  • Is it high quality?
  • Does it fit with what we are currently interested in or could it offer new avenues or ideas to explore?
  • How far away is and how expensive is it? (I have an entry cost limit I stick to unless something really special and I tend to stick to things no further than 30 mins away, again unless really special!)
  • Will it suit all the children somehow at some point and will I enjoy taking them?
  • Is it with families with a similar philosophy of life/education as our own? (Whilst we value our HE friends and acquaintance from all philosophies, if I am paying for something that includes a talk/activity/other guided session then I want to ensure as far as possible that it won't be disrupted and we will get the best out of it)
I usually make fairly split second decisions over the trips and activities on offer at any one time but some I do discuss with Dewi and some we try before we decide! Like so much of HE, you have to make it fit with your family circumstances. I see the mother of four children facilitate four times as many sporting sessions as I do and wonder if I should stretch my children more but then see the raw deal her toddler gets and realise we are just right for us. I also see the face book posts of the mother who is at a different outing every day and wonder if I should try to afford to do more but then remember why we need down time at home too and relax again!

Sunday, 10 February 2013

Goals for 2013

It may seem a little late to be posting about a New Year topic in February, but instead of one New Year's resolution this year, I wrote a list of goals for the year that I would like to achieve. Some are bigger and some are smaller, but all have featured in my to-do lists for a long time! I went to a life coaching conference last October and learned some really interesting techniques for self motivation and achieving goals. One of them was to 'put them out there', that some how you are more accountable and more likely to work towards them and complete them if you make them public. Public could be the back of an envelope under a magnet on the fridge door, or it could be blogging but here are mine, and here goes nothin'.........
  • get the house organised once and for all and maintain it (I'm SO close!)
  • good momentum with home education
  • build friendships
  • Make time for my marriage
  • change car to a more eco friendly one
  • get Idris to sleep better
  • Blog more - be less afraid of what others think
  • finish rag rug
  • make quiet time dolls for the girls
  • get to grips with technology
  • bake every week
  • give more of my undivided attention to the children
  • pension!
  • home ed co-operatives
  • crochet
I listed them exactly as I wrote them in my notebook. Looking back I am interested to note that the only two things that I listed beginning with a capital letter were my marriage and blogging..... significant? There is lots more I could say of course about each of these, why it is important to me, why it is on this list as opposed to remianing on one of my other lists (insert wry smile here, I have lots of lists!) but I will leave it there. Looking at it again, I can see one that is very unlikely to happen as we have changed our minds about the wisdom of it, and a couple that are in progress already, so perhaps I will have achieved them all by the end of the year!!

Friday, 18 January 2013

Feeding a family on a small budget!

Lentil Bolognaise, still steaming from the pan!
There comes a time when most of us have to tighten our belts and cut spending to meet a reduced income or to make increased food costs fit an existing budget. I have practised frugal shopping to one extent or another for the whole of my marriage but for the last 16 months we have had extra money due to the shifts that Dewi has been on. Without even realising it, my shopping habits have subtly shifted and our food bills crept up by about a third. From April we are losing a considerable amount per month as Dewi's shifts return to normal and that means cutbacks! This month I am focusing on our food shopping, menus and eating habits and trying some new things as well as some old tricks to bring our food costs back in line with what our income will be! I have a target in my mind of £80 a week for the shopping (both food and other essentials such as toilet paper) but I haven't set it in stone as I don't want to make us miserable sticking rigidly to it if it simply isn't enough. I will review it as I go!

The first thing I did was to think about the meals that we eat and I noticed that were eating a lot more meat than this time last year which is expensive, and we are eating some 'cheat meals' as I call them such as frozen pizzas and jars of curry sauce. After agreeing with my meat loving husband that he was happy to eat meat just twice a week, the next job was a list of meals that might fit with our plans. I got out my favourite cook books and journal of magazine clipping recipes and listed all of the meals that we have enjoyed in the past that are less expensive to make but just as yummy to eat! I was reminded as I went through them of some of the money saving tricks I have used before, such as bulking out shepherd's pie, lasagne and chilli with lentils, reducing portion sizes of meaty meals and increasing the portion of vegetables served with it.

Another expensive habit we have is unlimited fruit consumption. I love it that my children snack on fruit. We don't buy biscuits, crisps and chocolate so they have no choice really and they never waste fruit....... however it is a sad fact here in the UK that a packet of biscuits costs 30p whilst a bag of apples costs £1.19 at a minimum (I like to buy British apples with the best flavour rather than the cheapest available). I have some misgivings about limiting the fruit that they eat but I realised that often they will eat one or two pieces in the run up to a meal because they are hungry and there is no need for that. I have decided to allow them three pieces a day spread out as they choose but each piece must be different. I calculated the number of bananas, apples, clementines and 'other fruit' we needed for the shopping list and will see how it goes! I buy soft fruits for Idris such as grapes, blueberries and raspberries. I can't afford for all of us to eat them but each of the children has had this luxury as a toddler to boost the variety of fruit they eat and I won't compromise on that!

Armed with this list (and I was impressed with the variety and number of dishes on it!), I wrote a meal plan for the week and from that, a shopping list. It didn't go completely to plan as Dewi offered to shop and I gratefully accepted but inevitable his choices aren't always that same as mine and I had also neglected to add a few staples onto the list such as squash, washing up liquid and vegetable oil! I will nip back this week for those items and perhaps put together a standard shopping list for future weeks that I can tick off as I notice them. I am keeping the receipts and over a month will work out how much of each basic item we get through with a view to making a monthly shop at a cash and carry for tinned tomatoes, pasta and rice etc. The web is great for being able to compare prices to find the best deals and although I don't buy into running around to list of places for individual items as the petrol you burn negates the cost savings anyway, heading to one place for a few deals just might be.

The one thing I can say is that shopping this way is more time consuming as it requires more thought, time and effort to even put a menu plan together. I am planning to work through the receipts and cost up each meal as well so that I have a reference point for the future. I think after a month or so of poring through the receipts, doing sums, researching bulk buy options and tweaking things to work well for us, that it will be less time consuming to do! I'm hoping so anyway. All new habits take time to get used to and it is necessary that we adjust to this one. Starting early has the added bonus of freeing up some cash to stash for a rainy day (my Mum will say that I am always squirrelling money away for this and that but I like to have separate 'pots' for separate things!).

I started this post the day Dewi went shopping and we have been eating this way for five days now. The fruit plan is going well, the children are being very good about it, although Idris isn't always sticking to his options! I calculated that 16% of our shopping this week was spent on fruit, I'll keep an eye and see how this goes. Usually I return half way through the week for more fruit but won't be this week!  I have been surprised that having worked out what meals fitted to which days, it has been pleasant to look at my plan and simply cook what is on it! I have been calculating the costs of each meal and have so far worked out that:
  • broccoli and bacon pasta is £3.30 for the meal,
  • mini toads in the hole with potato and carrot mash and onion gravy is £3.80,
  • lentil bolognaise with spaghetti is 90p for the meal!
It is interesting to see the costs and I'm thinking that keeping a list will mean that I can plan meals from a range of costs rather than unknowingly picking seven high cost meals. My next step is to start making double lots and freeze one batch to ease the pressure on another week. I didn't work it out per person as each family member eats a different amount and I usually save some for Idris's lunch the next day as well.

There is a whole lot that could be said about how your food choices impact upon the cost of your food. I know a family that will only eat organic, fair trade foods and their food bill is around £250/week, and they make other financial choices to allow this. The only staunch rule that I have is that I will only buy British meat as I know the welfare standards differ in the UK to other countries and can be more easily traced to source than 'EU meats' (note recent revelations of horse meat in value beef burgers). I take note of where vegetables come from and try to limit food miles and make the most of seasonal veg but it doesn't always happen. I have toyed with the idea of a veg box delivery but they are quite costly and might be something to consider once I have trimmed down other expenses!

I made a courgette loaf today with oil instead of butter (again, butter is really expensive and I go through two to three blocks a week with baking and cooking). It turned out rather tasty, if a little drier than I like, so I'm going to continue to experiment with oil as an alternative and add those recipes to my planner! The recipe is here if you are interested, I substituted the orange juice for lemons as I had two going begging and reduced the sugar by a third to suit our tastes.

This post has turned out much longer than I planned, I didn't realise how much there was to say about it! I'll update on our progress and hopefully settle on a figure in the next month or so. I shall create a separate page on the blog to list meals, costs and brief recipes or links to recipes for you to use!

This post is linked to Welcome Home Wednesdays on Raising Arrows.

Sunday, 13 January 2013

Starting 2013 with a bang......


Well..... the bang of my rib cracking as I fell off the fence helping to lift wooden veg planters over the top. It was the first day that all of us had been well since Boxing day and with a burst of welcome energy I dived out into the garden, then retreated to A&E several hours later for a check up and have spent the last week in considerable discomfort. It isn't as bad as I thought it would be, unless I feel better and then do too much, but I am heartily sick of sleeping sitting up!

Sitting in state on the sofa has given me plenty of time to quietly (or not so quietly depending on what is happening around me!) observe the finer details of our family mechanics. There are areas that could do with some tweaking and the time to think has allowed me to come up with some solutions that may work for us.

Some of the tweaks are around when to do activities with the girls with a very active and inquisitive toddler who will climb ON the table and stomp all over things, and WILL NOT be distracted by something different, as he wants to see what THEY have. I am wondering about putting a little table in the kitchen for crafting when they want to make things (those that have seen the size of my kitchen will laugh at that - it will have to be put in and out as the kitchen is tiny!!!). And possibly putting boards on our bed for the girls to play with their small world toys so that they can set up scenes without having to defend them. Neither solution ideal but in a little house I'm thinking I need to be creative about these things!!

Other tweaks are about helping out with chores. I am getting huffs and puffs, eye rolling and accusations of making them do EVERYTHING when I ask them to carry out fairly minor tasks so need to address this too! Possible solutions are a pictorial chart for each child for morning tasks such as making bed, teeth, inhalers, opening curtains, putting books away etc. Another is to ingrain habits of everyone spending ten minutes after mealtimes doing chores together such as the dishes, laundry, having a tidy up etc.

Bedtimes are also sliding out of hand again. Faith does gymnastics late two evenings a week and Eve once a week and I find these really throw out other evenings and tired children into bed isn't great. Eve is beginning to express her wish to bathe alone rather than in company, so I'm thinking about shorter but separate baths with the other sister getting some one-one time with Mummy or Daddy whilst not in the bath. Some bedtime rules need reinforcing as well. We let then self-regulate when they turn their light off as Faith needs much less sleep than Eve and after years of fighting with her to get her to go to sleep at a certain time, we realised it works better to let her sleep when ready....... BUT the permitted bedtime activities list has been strayed from and it is working to keep them awake longer rather than help them wind down and sleep so that needs nipping in the bud!

I find that these kind of issues pop up now and again and we need an analysis of each family member's needs and a re-jig to meet those needs. Part of it is the children growing up and the stages of their development. Part of it is the natural fall out of several weeks of illness and injuries leaving me parenting at less than 100% I learned long ago that when I'm ill I have to let a few balls drop or I prolong the illness and get run down and miserable. Picking those balls up again afterwards can be hard work but is much easier than battling through an illness. As long as there are clean clothes, hot meals (albeit not quite as healthy as normal) and the house is vaguely clean then I let it go and blitz when I am better!

I must be nearly better as I'm writing lists of things that need doing. They are scary long lists, of the annoying variety where the thing you really fancy doing can't be done until the job you are procrastinating about has been done first. Ah well, we'll get there in the end!

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Chapter Books


I have been reading 'chapter books' to the girls for years and I love it! They each have a book on the go for bedtime that I read to them, a chapter a night (or more depending on how effective the begging is or how much I want to know what happens next!). When I first started reading them to Eve when she was four, I racked my brains trying to think of suitable books and remember what I had read as a child. If you are struggling to think of any, I suggest posting the question on any e-mail home ed lists you are on as it gets everyone talking and is such good fun to reminisce, exchange opinions and gather new titles to read to your children! Not all of the books that we read can be classed as 'quality literature' but the girls enjoy them and there is room for all sorts of reading material in encouraging your children to love books!

I have always hankered after having a house with an upstairs landing large enough to house a book case with comfy chair and lamp to curl up in with a good book! As that is seeming less and less likely with our house-moving luck, I have decided to live in the moment. I put a small bookcase that we were given in the hallway and stored all the girl's chapter books on there, right by their bedrooms for them to browse and enjoy!

I have listed the books and authors where appropriate that we have enjoyed in the past or are enjoying now:
  • Eve's current reading material is the 'What Katy Did' Series which is an 1872 children's series written by Sarah Chauncey Woolsey under her pen name Susan Coolidge. We are on the second book named 'What Katy Did at School' and we have three beloved copies that were my Nana's when she was a child!
  • Little House on the Prairie series by Laura Ingalls Wilder - we have read the first five which cover the childhood years.
  • Famous Five by Enid Blyton - Faith adores these and finds them really exciting. We have the unabridged copies complete with bookworm holes munched through them which are very charming. I tweak to suit as I read though to tone down the 'girls are weaklings' vein than pops up here and there!
  • Charlotte's Web
  • Books by Dick King Smith, most notable 'The Queen's nose', 'The hodgeheg' and 'The Sheep Pig'.
  • The Sophie series, also by Dick King Smith, Faith really enjoyed these, I think she identified with the main character somewhat!
  • Before we started What Katy Did, Eve and I read through the Chronicles of Narnia by C.S.Lewis, we both thoroughly enjoyed the adventure and excitement in these books. I had started the series as a child but never finished them so it was a treat to get a second go!
  • We discovered the author Noel Streatfield by chance and have read 'When the Sirens wailed' which was topical and about children and historically accurate which was great. We have a second one named 'Ballet Shoes' on the go which is just as enjoyable but we are reading it more slowly!
  • We know Roald Dahl's books very well, although they can sail a bit close to the knuckle sometimes in terms of language, the girls seem to find them gloriously funny!
  • I have Harper Cory, Wildlife Ways lined up to read to Faith.
  • On Eve's list is Heidi, again an old family copy that I read as a child too and The Secret Garden.
I'd love to hear your recommendations in the comments!

Monday, 19 November 2012

An Advent Calendar of Activities!

Inspired by my sister-in-law and by these bags that I found in Ikea today (apologies for the upside down photo, I am getting to grips with drop box and an android phone - bear with me!), I have put together an advent of activities for the children and us to enjoy throughout December. I downloaded printable Christmassy labels and edited them to show all of the activities that I have come up with. I have more than 24 as I plan to tweak both the order and the activity in the bag to suit the day and the circumstances! I think that I'm going to hang them down our beautiful banister rail so they will look really decorative as well as being their advent calendar. I'm not as organised as my sister-in-law as I haven't yet GOT all the ingredients and materials needed but there's plenty of time for that! This was very spur of the moment but I had no trouble thinking of things as we always do quite a few fun activities in December and I have been thinking about doing this for several years now! Events just collided to make me do it this year! Thanks Lorri and Ikea! Here is our list - some are specific to our area, and some are general!

  • Shop for Christmas gifts for the children at The Haven
  • Put up and decorate the tree (always on the 14th after Daddy's Birthday!!)
  • Make mini gingerbread houses (a work in progress as we can't get graham crackers here and that was the idea that I saw....... watch this space!)
  • Go Ice skating or to snow play, depending on deals and offers!
  • Go for a walk to see the lighted houses near Granny and Grandpa's house
  • Make marshmallows
  • Make new ornaments for the tiny Christmas trees and decorate the trees
  • Make ice-candles
  • Make ice-cream cone Christmas trees to eat
  • Treat the birds
  • Decorate the Christmas cake
  • m&m's Christmas story
  • Christmas tree play dough
  • Write letters to Santa (something for me, something for someone else, something for the world)
  • Make reindeer food
  • Learn a new Christmas carol
  • Make hand print ornaments
  • Make paper chains (we always do this, it's a tradition in our house!)
  • Make lolly stick snowflakes for the walls
  • Have a family pow-wow and say nice things about each other - write them down to keep!
  • Make mince pies and give to the local people we know who are in need (Jack (92) is first on the list, he always carried a boneo in his pocket for our dog, and he was the only person she never barked at as she rushed out to sit and beg waiting for her treat then scuttled off again without a backward glance - pure cupboard love but we have come to love Jack and after a bout of pneumonia earlier this year, we no longer see him take his daily walk and we miss him!)
  • Go to the Christmas tree festival at Church
  • Make paper snowflakes
  • Enjoy hot chocolate with all the trimmings!
I might pop the odd sweet or chocolate in there to make the children giggle, like red smarties for Rudolph's nose and chocolate coated raisins for reindeer poo! I'm really happy I did this this year and I'm looking forwards to it! Have fun making yours!